The biggest benefit of blogging for me hasn’t been the exposure for my writing or the chance to express myself, even though those were the things I thought I’d gain the most from blogging. The biggest benefit has been the interesting people I have met along this journey and how they have enriched my life with their spirits and with their words.
Obianuju is a young blogger whose wisdom and writing prowess shows an expertise that one associates with gray hair (some people get gray hair pretty early though, some of them like my dad were born with it). I look forward to her posts (she doesn’t blog often enough *angry face*) and I stalk her on instagram where she has dozens of pictures where she doesn’t crack a smile.
Enjoy Uju’s take on the age old conundrum- the chicken and the egg
WHICH COMES FIRST: THE CHICKEN OR THE EGG?
In many ways, I’m still a child. For instance, when we used to get Disney XD, and I was in control of the remote, I’d park myself in front of the television and watch marathons of Phineas and Ferb. Most people knew not to disturb me. I still do it sometimes when I get the chance. The question this engenders is: am I still clinging to my childhood because I had an interrupted one? Or am I still a child because I want to be?
If this were a movie, Michael Jackson’s Childhood would be the soundtrack of this scene. That song is so haunting!
I hate crowds with a passion. The smells, the choking, the fact that I almost died twice in crowds reinforces that hatred. So for instance, instead of going to RCCG Camp and being miserable, sleepy and tired through out the service, I prefer to be in my house watching Dove TV, bright eyed, happy and fully awake for the most part. Do I hate crowds because the television provides a convenient alternative option? Or is the TV merely a convenient alternative to what might be a miserable situation for me?
I’d rather watch it on TV too.
I usually refuse to comment on any blog if I see that the author hasn’t replied. My very first blog, it took about a month before I got any comments. I learnt to treasure them. So why won’t I comment on a blog if the author isn’t replying? What’s my business?
This is a pet peeve for me too, even if you can’t for some reason reply to all the comments for some reason, reply to some.
It used to be extremely difficult to sleep in the night. As a result, I’d write articles, read blogs, books, watch a movie or 3 and browse the Worldwide Web. Some of my family members suggested that it was because I undertake this whirlwind of activity that I’m unable to sleep. I put this to rest by laying on my bed without distractions and still the sleep wouldn’t come. And then they’d advise me to read a book or watch a movie.
#teaminsomnia it gets worse for me if there’s no activity, my head would feel it’s about to implode. It’s far easier for me to fall asleep reading a book.
Does the problem show up before the solution? Or does a solution already exist looking for a corresponding problem? Do I, do we as human beings forget that we have shovels in our backyards while we toss earth by hand? Or do we toss by hand because we have a feeling that the shovel has been destroyed?
“If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?
I see this pattern everywhere. Someone who got married at 28 wants me to get married at 19. Did she have such a wonderful experience at 28 that she wants me to start 9 years earlier? Or did she have such a miserable experience she’d like to show me much earlier?
Misery loves company perhaps….
Do we trust our family members because they’ve proven themselves trustworthy? Or because we have no other choice? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Why is 30 the benchmark for girls to be in their husband’s house? Why not 18? Or 40? And why is there no corresponding benchmark for boys?
There are benchmarks for men in some cultures and in some ways it’s even harder for them, a woman in her 30s can easily say she’s waiting for the man who’d propose and that would ease some of the pressure. A man in his 30s who is financially stable would face pressure too and he won’t have an excuse that would make busybodies back down
I don’t have all the answers. I don’t want to have all the answers. I just wanted to get you to start thinking.
The long road
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PS: Last year I participated in the 15 for 15 challenge initiated by Janyl who blogs at jbshares.com,the challenge was succeeded by voting which is on going currently. Please click here, go through the posts of all the other the other bloggers participating in this challenge and vote for your winning blogger!