Around this time last year I met Duru- The young and confused blogger. This 23 year old confused blogger has been blogging consistently for two years, his blog is fabulous and he recently launched a clothing line (Nonso you need to come and pay homage sef). The first post I read on his blog inspired this post and since then, he’s become my otunne.
This year, he’s inspiring another post. His reply to my the F-word post made me smile and the questions he raised were worthy of their own blog post and his comment too was worthy of being a full blog post… so here we are.
Reading you always leaves me shocked like someboRRy that baths on Nepa transformer.. That being said.. *”MRS” Adichie… 🙂
You see Ehn nne… I wish could tell you i support Feminism.. But on this post i am going to be a tad against you.. Please pardon me if I don’t strike high Intellectual Octave notes.. But amma Say it as I think it!. See Ada. GOD made Man first… and then he made Woman to be his helper when he saw man was alone…. Now that alone to me indicates a certain Hierarchy of not just purpose.. But of strength.. Of decision making and of Actions and will.. Now don’t get me wrong.. I totally support training a girl child.. I mean Women have almost 10 times the IQ of guys.. And he who takes away a woman’s inheritance from her just cause of her gender is just plain the DEVIL… But my point nne is that most of this strive for UNINFORMED equality must stop.. The white man has come and he is taken away our rationality.. A woman can be called to lead a State! Yes! A woman can be President! Yes! But A woman can be senate President! Yes.. But Even in all these high Offices Bubba.. She needs to be Submissive to a man..
To this 23 years 8 months and 17 days old child yeah… The challenge wit Feminism in 2015 is that It doesnt just enlighten the women folk.. It makes many of them Arrogant, unsubmissive to their man and Power Obsessive, that they begin to see many of us African men as Chauvinist when all we are being is but African MEN..
Kindly permit me to conclude by saying This.. “Train a female child and you train a generation… but teach a Female Child to know her place as well, and you make her both learned and a trained mother of generations… Cheers nne..
First of all… Adichie is her father’s surname and her maiden name, so she can’t be Mrs Adichie. However we don’t have a right to call her anything other than what she says she wants to be called. If she says she is Ms Adichie… Then Ms Adichie she is. Besides she’s already well known as Adichie, won several awards and fellowships as Adichie, there’s no need to change her name and thus dilute her brand… it makes no sense.
Duru talked about Men coming first and women coming as helpers. That theory doesn’t hold water for me. Using Duru’s point as reference, I will disprove that theory
• As Duru said, the woman was brought in to help… implying or even stating that man could not handle the task, he was overwhelmed by the task and a more capable individual had to be brought in. When you need help, who do you go to? A superior or a subordinate? Aha! Of course it’s a more experienced and knowledgeable person who is brought in.
• Man was made from dust (frail) while woman was made from his rib- bone (hard). Duru is an engineer and I know there’s an engineering course (mech engineering I think) which is called strength of materials. Can dust be said to be stronger than bone? Or can a product made from dust be said to be more durable than a product made from bone?… The answer is obvious.
• In the original plan of God, none of them was greater than the other. However after the fall of man, God “demoted” the woman. Gen 3:16. However as Christians we believe the death of Jesus has set us free from every curse.
You talked about submission to men by women and this is where a lot of us get it twisted, there’s nowhere in the bible that women are asked to be submissive to men.The only person a woman has to submit to is HER HUSBAND, any other man can go jump into a lake- Eph 5:22, Col 3:18. Funny thing is we are asked to submit one to another as Christians-Eph 5:21, this means that a man can submit to a woman too.
Besides, in Gal 3:28 Paul tells us there is neither male or female but we are all one in Christ. Speaking of the bible, there are many verses of the old and new testaments that talk about slavery, conduct of slaves and their owners etc. No one was condemned for owning slaves, in fact a whole book in the bible- Philemon, was written to a slave owner. Would you consider owning slaves today? Or do you think anyone should own slaves… After all it’s in the bible… right?
I like your point about African men being what they are but we all know the popular saying “change is the only constant thing” I was watching a clip on the slave trade in Badagry on Channels this evening and heard pathetic stories about the reasons people were sold into slavery. People were sold for as little as a bottle of gin, imagine a man selling his wife and daughter for a bottle of foreign alcohol. Also people used to kill twins and albino but all that has changed now right? We can change if we want to, we can adapt to changing times.
Truth is, the tide of feminism is turning fast and if we don’t adapt we will not survive. if a man is arrogant and power obsessive, we don’t see it as something so terrible. Why then do we find it so repulsive in women? Why do we want to stifle ambition in women? When you talked about a female president, you were very interested in whether she submits to her man. You haven’t talked about her competence and vision… you just want her to submit. But what if she has no man to submit to, no husband to “tame her”. What happens then?